A man is lying on the street, cars have smashed fenders, the police arrive.  Two strangers, from opposite sides of the street volunteer that they are eye witnesses.  But their stories are different.  The officer on the scene gets two completely different stories about the same scene.  Who is right?  Who is wrong?  Who is to blame? 

 
Sounds familiar.  A committed couple can have two completely different perspectives about the same problem.  This could be a conflict over an unpaid bill, a sick child, or a busted vacation with family members.  Who is right?  Who is wrong?  Who is to blame?
 
We can change the dance.  With new skills the same problem can be approached by a couple with a totally new attitude, that each person can have a different point of view.  And while there may be blame and mistakes were made, the relationship can apply new skills for approaching the issue, learning from each other and building strength out of weakness and togetherness out of conflict.
 
The person we are partnered with is an individual too.  They have their own world view and see a world that is different from the one we see.  We are in this together and need to blend our differences into a team that is stronger than the individual parts.

...everyone